Okay sure, but what do you identify more with?

Society came from a time where two races couldn’t live together, to a time where they can coexist in one body. Being told you have to choose between one race or the other,  for you can only be “one” is a war with yourself. All the struggling, and not being accepted in society is highly overlooked. 

Biracial: When someone is born from parents a different race from each other; Two races.

While I can’t speak for every biracial person to exist, for we all have different experiences and lives, sometimes a biracial person may feel on many accounts that they don’t fit in anywhere, like a wolf in sheep’s clothing. We may feel not privileged enough or too privileged, too black for asian people, or too asian for black people, we often may even feel pressured to pick one identity and reject the other part of you.

There are even situations where I have felt uncomfortable in my skin, or even ashamed that I’m not fully one race; something I have absolutely no control over.

How the World Affects Biracial People

There’s a big question that is often asked.

What do you identify more as?

This question often brings panic or shame. How is someone supposed to neglect one side of them? I should not have to choose which race I want to be, I should be able to exist as both. Oftentimes, the person asked says they identify as both because it would be illogical to identify as one side more than another. And it is. It often progresses from a question to a lecture on race. I have been asked to pick a side more times than I could merely recall. This is common. We are constantly bombarded with these illogical questions asking us which side we identify with more, or which race we consider ourselves to be. People have attempted to push me more toward one side than the other with comments informing me I don’t act enough like one side. That’s where the racial stereotypes come in. I don’t understand why the two cultures I come from cannot coexist within my identity the way they do in my DNA. I shouldn’t have to choose what race I haveto be, I should be able to exist as equal parts of both races.

Maybe the urge to choose one side is to help us fit in with racial groups – another upsetting problem with society today. 

On the other hand, my peers have denied the other half of me because I look too much like one race. If I am both black and asian, but cannot be both, what can I be? You don’t get a vote when it comes to how we identify. Even if you’re one of our parents. There will never be an answer to the consistent questions.

The Stereotype that Biracial People Have It “Easier”

There is a very common misconception that biracial people don’t struggle as much as they would if they were one race. There are times I’ve been told, “You’re lucky you’re not full black/asian”, then continue to list the disadvantages of being one specific race. This puts biracial people in a very uncomfortable position, and the “interviewee” doesn’t even realize it. 

There are even the terms like  “white passing”, which mean that even though you are a different race or even mixed you look like another race/fully one race. That’s where things like white privilege come in. Maybe there are benefits to being one race than the other, but regardless of the struggles that would be non-existent any one, I am still proud to be biracial and have both of those in my DNA. 

The existence of multiracial people is a sign of growth in the United States, since there was a time where races were segregated. Making multiracial people choose one side would be taking a leap backward. At the end of the day, I am the product of an asian mother and black father, and both are equally a part of me. Allowing biracial people to exist is the next step to breaking down racial barriers in our country. I would not change being mixed if my life depended on it.